Posted by: PossibilityPartners | November 4, 2019

Freedom To Choose

So I’m sitting in Livingston, MT, on a mini, self-directed, 3-day retreat in an RVBO, sans TV and companions.

First, I’m grateful for the technology that supports being connected wherever we are. I have my laptop for email and my Nook for books, my latest purchase being “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant.” I think that definitely will add insights into dealing with “CEO’s” for myself as well as for their employees.

And a dear friend emailed me about getting together, to which I responded with an enthusiastic “yes!” along with a suggestion for dates, a restaurant, and the possibility of seeing “Dead Man Walking” at the Chicago Lyric Opera. I realize in this unencumbered time of reflection that, despite often feeling isolated (living alone), I do HAVE friends. I simply need and want to do a better job of getting together with them.

BTW, with the experience of eliminating TV from my life temporarily, I am actually thinking I might eat better, exercise more, and heighten my socialization efforts with more frequent television bans. What a concept!

Initially when planning this retreat, I didn’t really consider the courage and initiative (to say nothing of the planning and organizing skills) needed to make the arrangements and engage in a new environment where one has to create their own agenda and plan.

I believe we human beings would benefit from engaging in such efforts periodically so we know we can. That way, we can avoid feeling trapped by our circumstances, whether it’s relationships that have run their course, jobs that no longer serve our needs, or habits that get in the way of feeding our souls.

In order to have freedom of choice I am suggesting, for your consideration, that we need to continually or periodically review or take stock of where we are, along with engage in continuous learning to support full participation in creating what’s next with enthusiasm, curiosity, courage, and vision. While pragmatism is a valuable and life-giving skill, it sometimes shuts down or limits the expansiveness and impact of new possibilities that can make a significant difference in our own lives along with contributing to the greater good.

With that, I’m off to explore Livingston, with the first stop at Coffee Crossing on 2nd Street and the second stop at Sacred Mysteries Bookstore.

Your thoughts?

Always with much love and care,

Dianne

Human Resources Professional & Artist of Possibility

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | April 10, 2019

Time To Choose . . .

For most of my life I’ve had one foot in rebelling against the status quo and the other in seeking its approval. A culmination of recent events (reading Abby Wambach’s newest book, Wolfpack, Joe Biden’s situation, and participation in Craig Hamilton’s course in spiritual awakening, to name just a few) has caused me to realize it’s time to choose powerfully the difference I want to make in the world. At age soon-to-be 75, isn’t it about time????? I am inviting all women (and men too!) to join me in becoming Possibility Partners to unleash our purpose, power, and potential in creating a world that works for everyone, not just the privileged few! And my first challenge to the status quo is for women especially to be grateful AND demanding of what they deserve! More on that next time . . . all comments and ideas are most welcome. Have a powerful, influential, and grateful day!

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | April 5, 2019

Message for James Carville and Al Hunt Re Joe Biden

On their recent podcast, James Carville and Al Hunt were discussing the Joe Biden situation with regard to the need for an expert to explain the new rules for engagement between men and women . . . kind of like an updated Emily Post to explain the proper etiquette for when males and females meet. I have news for James and Al — the world is filled with experts on that topic. They’re called women! Too many men simply don’t have a long history or habit of listening to what we had and have to say!

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | February 17, 2019

Possibility Partners . . . Unleashing Purpose & Potential

Freud said that meaningful work and loving relationships are all that humans need for living a fulfilling life. I believe we can create workplaces that can provide that for people . . . workplaces where people can embrace responsibility as a gift of participation, contribution and self-expression . . . workplaces where relationships of mutual trust and respect are created, with people sharing perspectives for one another’s consideration if they want to vs. imposing advice whether people want it or not. So much is possible with the Possibility Partner approach! Would love your perspectives on this! Check out http://www.thepossibilityparadigm.com for additional info. Thanks. All for now. Dianne

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | October 11, 2015

What’s Next Conversations

Instead of fixing what’s wrong, how about becoming possibility partners in conversations for creating what’s next — conversations that focus on what could be versus fixing what shouldn’t be?

Instead of a commitment and a process for change based on judgments of what’s wrong, I am proposing conversations of creativity and collaboration, based on co-creating new possibilities.

These “What’s Next” Conversations serve as magnets for energy fields of “WE,” that can accelerate the passion, excitement, and imagination residing within each of us humans.

Such acceleration can result in the collective unleashing of collaborations, ideas, and partnerships that exceed anything we could have imagined in co-creating new possibilities for a world that works for everyone on the planet!

Your thoughts?

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | May 30, 2015

Books as Possibility Partners

Books are amazing possibility partners . . . we can be magnets for attracting them . . . and they can inform, motivate and move us forward on our intentions to unleash our individual and collective potential. . . especially in the workplace. So the three books read recently that qualify for possibility partnerships in my view are as follows:

CHANGE OR DIE The Three Keys to Change at Work and in Life, Alan Deutschman author.  Mr. Deutschman writes on p. 19, “Change or Die began as a cover story for Fast Company debunking what I called our most common ‘myths’ about how to motivate change, especially our reliance on facts and fear.”

His three keys to change are relate, repeat, and reframe. Or defined another way, to provide new hope, new skills, and new thinking. And on p. 34, “Denial is one of the biggest reasons it’s so difficult to motivate other people to change. We think we can enlighten them by telling them the facts, but they’re in denial because they’ve already confronted the facts and they can’t handle the facts. We try to use fear to motivate them to change, but they’re in denial because the fear is too overwhelming . . .If you’re hopeless, then what you need is someone to inspire a new sense of hope . . .”

IBM, GM, and Delancey Street are compelling success stories about change presented so effectively by Mr. Deutschman. The Delancey Street story is especially captivating since it’s an innovative approach to rehabilitating criminals that is working!

As the author states on p. 152, “The fearful connotations of Change or Die may have been enough to get you to buy or borrow this book, but I quickly substituted a message about the importance of new hope and new thinking, which is what sustains change. Instead of Change or Die, think Change and Thrive.” No matter your circumstances and possibilities, I promise this book will be well worth your investment of time and money.

Two additional books that are illuminating and empowering are Overwhelmed: Work, Love And Play When No One Has The Time, Brigid Schulte author and Joy, Inc. How We Built a Workplace People Love, Richard Sheridan author.

Brigid Schulte’s book is based on two years of extensive research, resulting in a comprehensive and insightful view of why we are all so busy being ideal workers, super moms and having no time for leisure. She also provides ideas about what we can do to combat this overwhelm of busyness and brilliantly illuminates the cultural factors that contribute to our current state. I found her comparisons of US cultural factors with other countries particularly illuminating and informative. (Would you be surprised to learn we don’t compare favorably with other countries?)

Richard Sheridan, the author of Joy, Inc.  is the co-founder of Menlo Innovations, a software development firm located in Ann Arbor, Michigan, that was founded on the desire, according to the author on p. 25, “. . .to create a place where we were excited to come to work every day.” And joy is defined on p. 29 as “the deep satisfaction you get from successfully training for and completing a marathon.”

And I love their description on p. 72 of  one of the key elements of a joyful culture, which is “having team members who trust one another enough to argue.” Innovative, progressive, democratic, imaginative are all words I would use to describe this successful business venture, and what I find particularly thought-provoking is stated on p. 147,  “Once the decisions are made and declared unambiguously, we must establish the practices that will ensure that the work will be done with rigor and discipline. Only then will you have the chance to produce the type of quality that yields the pride of a job well done. . . the quality effect of rigor and discipline is of paramount importance. What can we do to ensure we get a chance to work with the pride that emanates from knowing you did the best job you could? Heroes Rely on Risky Heroics, Great Teams Rely on Discipline.” This book really is a “must read” for anyone who’s remotely interested in creating great workplaces.

My read for next month’s “book report” is Healthy Brain, Happy Life A Personal Program to Activate Your Brain & Do Everything Better, Wendy Suzuki, PhD author.

 

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | May 18, 2015

WHY POSSIBILITY PARTNERS?

Yesterday I talked about how Possibility Partners came into existence. Today I want to share why . . . everywhere I’ve been, whether it’s in my seven careers (I know I said seven but more on that later!) including Human Resources consulting for 15 years, or in my relationships with friends and family, always the focus has seemed to be on solving problems and building/repairing relationships.

At work and in relationships, the focus has historically been on need — what we need from you at work — what you need from us at work — what I need from you in our relationship — what I need from you as a parent — what I need from you as my child, etc. You get the picture.

It’s as if the main purpose for our existence is to meet one another’s needs. What if our main purpose for our existence is to co-create new futures, new possibilities together? Instead of fixing things and “working” on our relationships, what if we focused on engaging in WOW (way opening wider) conversations for possibility, trusting that relationships happen as a by-product of that focus rather than relationships being the main motivator?

My extensive work experiences and relationship experiences over the years have convinced me that the world is filled with “unleashed” potential waiting to be ignited. I hope you will join with me in creating possibility partners in your lives that will ignite that potential!

Wishing you much joy and serendipity (unanticipated good fortune) . . . Dianne

Posted by: PossibilityPartners | May 16, 2015

WELCOME!

I was having dinner with a dear friend the other evening, engaging in non-stop conversation about the launch of her new business, the challenges and gratifications with my new job, and on and on. The energy and enthusiasm being generated by our conversation was so real, so compelling. It carried us to a place of creativity and joy that neither of us could have generated without the other. The evening was intoxicating and left us feeling that anything was possible. And on our way out of the restaurant, my friend said, “We are possibility partners!” And thus this blog was launched.

This is not pie-in-the-sky thinking, but rather it’s the sky’s-the-limit thinking, depending on who you meet and how liberated you are from the tyranny of events and people having to be a certain way and meet certain predetermined expectations in order for you to fulfill on your possibilities. More on that in our next engagement here!

Wishing you much serendipity in your current and future possibility partnerships!

Dianne

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